This is the main reason.
Back in the day, women were raised with the clear expectation of becoming wives. They were taught how to cook, clean, maintain a home, dress modestly, and care for their young ones.
Because they learned these skills early, they grew up mentally prepared for these responsibilities. By the time they got married, they already knew efficient ways to manage a household.
Modern women, however, were raised in a completely different environment. They cook only once in a while, do laundry whenever they feel like it, leave chores for later, or rely heavily on convenience foods. They grew up unaccustomed to the structure and discipline that daily household responsibilities require.
So when they get married and suddenly face consistent, everyday tasks they were never trained for…cooking regularly, cleaning consistently, managing a home…they experience these responsibilities as a burden. It’s not that the work itself is unbearable; it’s that they were never conditioned for it.
What they really miss is the freedom they had before marriage…the freedom to choose when or whether to do anything. Marriage introduces routine, accountability, and shared responsibility.
For someone who grew up unaccustomed to that, it can feel like pressure, confinement, or even “slavery.” Instead of admitting that the real struggle is the loss of unrestricted freedom, it becomes easier to frame the work as what’s weighing them down and we all know men are always used as their scapegoats.
Mike